APSATS-Certified Betrayal Trauma Coach for Partners

It's time to take back the pen that's been stolen from you.

You didn't get the whole story. You weren't given the truth, or the choice.

That injustice is brutal — and it's not your fault.

But the pen is back in your hand now. You get to decide what happens next.
And you don't have to do it alone. I'll walk beside you as you write the next line, at your pace, in your own power.

I've lived this betrayal too. I know the shattering-and I know the way through.

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This is your safe space for clarity, healing and transformation.

You didn’t choose how you got here — but you do get to choose where you go from here. At GrayView Coaching, I walk alongside women healing from sexual betrayal trauma, offering a safe, compassionate space to rediscover your core values,
reclaim your self-worth, and rebuild your life on your terms.

Here, you’ll learn that self-care is not selfish, that your feelings are valid, and that healing is possible — one brave step at a time.

Meet your coach

Judy Gray - CPC, ACC, APSATS-CPC

I'm Judy Gray, a Certified Professional Coach and APSATS Certified Partner Coach. Having personally navigated the devastating experience of sexual betrayal trauma, I understand the intense pain, confusion, and isolation you may be feeling.

My mission is to provide compassionate, judgment-free guidance as you find clarity, safety, and empowerment on your healing journey. I am grounded in my Christian faith and deep love for my family. I offer an inclusive environment where you can safely explore your feelings, gain clarity about your experiences, and reclaim your sense of self.

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Why GrayView?

In a world that often pushes us to see things in black and white, I've learned that true healing exists in the gray areas. I’ve come to recognize that recovery from betrayal isn't about absolutes or "shoulds." It's about navigating the complex, often murky waters of emotions, trust, and personal growth. Just as gray is a color of nuance and depth, our journey through betrayal trauma is multifaceted and unique to each individual. I'm here to guide you through these shades of gray, helping you find clarity without judgment, and empowerment without prescriptive solutions.

Let's step into the gray together—where healing happens, and new perspectives emerge.

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Access our FREE resource library

You don’t have to guess anymore.

When betrayal shatters your trust, the questions can feel endless: Is he actually changing? Is this betrayal trauma? Is he a sex addict? Where do I even turn for help?

This free resource page gives you immediate access to checklists and guides that answer those very questions—so you can breathe again and take your next step with clarity.

  • “I have nothing but gratitude and appreciation for Judy! She is gentle, assuring and ever so supportive. She’s been my coach and friend and I always felt her sincerity and genuine care as I navigate my healing and recovery. I am so grateful that God led me to her out of all the betrayal coaches that I’ve emailed before. I felt safe, heard and seen in each session. She helped me prepare, be courageous, to speak my truth, and to stand for myself!

    — G.A.

  • “From the first interactions I had with her, I sensed deep care, compassion and empathy. She created a place that was welcoming, safe, authentic and healing. Her vibrance, wisdom and authenticity has been such a gift. My life is stronger and richer for the experience and what I learned through working with her.”

    — K.W.

  • “She never failed to meet me exactly where I was-- with no judgement. So much of the betrayal journey is ugly. And even when I was my ugliest, she understood and she listened. Really listened. She didn’t listen just to be polite, but rather to understand where I was in my journey so that she could give me the tools that I needed right then.”

    — R. I. 

  • ​I started working with Judy when I was in one of the lowest, most confusing points of my life. Judy helped me understand the reality of being in a relationship affected by sex addiction-something I hadn't even been able to name at the time. She gave me clarity, language, and most importantly, compassion. She helped me untangle the manipulation, the gaslighting, the shame, and everything else that had left me feeling broken. But she never made me feel broken. She was a steady presence in a time of chaos-someone who truly got it and held space without judgment. Because of her, I was able to make the hardest choices with confidence and clarity, and I'll always be grateful. She has been my lifeline, and I cannot recommend her enough." — M.S.

  • “She made our group such a safe place, a place where I could bring my fears,
    thoughts, and burdens and know that it was ok to be real. She is very knowledgeable, and compassionate.”

    — D. S.

Join Me on Your
Journey to Healing.